These cases where children in Syria have seen more deaths than most adults have in a lifetime. A mother losing 8 of her sons, the sons who she brought up and raised to be lawyers, in the Quetta blast. These cases are of women forced into prostitution, of women beaten at home. These are of children mutilated and forced into beggary.
I could go on and on about the misery in the world, the sorrow, the unhappiness. But how could I? When I see those same children in Syria smiling ear to ear at the prospects of swimming in a “pond”, which is nothing more than a hole in the ground and ruined water pipes, dug out by the same bombs that killed their friends and family, how can I complain about how unfair my life is when I see that mother clinging to the only shred of comfort she has; the comfort of her sons having died as martyrs.
I think about all of that and I’m grateful! Grateful that my problems, in ways, are self created. Grateful that my problems, or what I claim are problems, go side to side by the lifestyle I chose to live and will go away just as quickly as the time I took to acknowledge them, only to be solved and then replaced by another set of fleeting, self created problems.
This very gratitude changed my life. It made me be grateful for what I had instead of focusing on what I didn’t. It made me appreciate good memories in tough times, grateful that they happened instead of sulking on why I am not as happy, now. It made me grateful for all the things that could’ve gone wrong but didn’t.
My logic is simple, perspective is everything. There is ALWAYS a sliver lining. It’s a matter of how you chose to look at problem. If you chose to look at it as a problem, at all.
Here is what this post wants from you, when faced with a problem, get out of it if you can. If you could not: look around you, look at these ‘cases’, look at the un-ending suffering they have to endure, look at what others are going through, understand how hard life can get , analyze at how much better your situation is from many others and be happy.
Look beneath you for the sky is without limit. Learn and practice the art of happiness in midst of those inconvenient situations you call problems, open up to a world beyond yourself.
Learn to be happy and teach it, nothing else matters.